GRIEF THERAPIST IN NEWMARKET & ACROSS ON
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Therapy for grief & loss of all kinds.
Losing someone—or something—you love is never easy.
Your mind keeps circling back to all the "should haves," "would haves," and "could haves," often accompanied by a sense of guilt or shame that lingers in the background.
Grief has a way of making you question everything—your choices, your actions, and even your beliefs. You might find yourself wondering, “Is there really a God?” or “How could this happen?” For some, it stirs up deeper reflections about personal faith, purpose, and the meaning of it all.
Often, there’s guilt, too. “Could I have done more? Should I have said something different? Why didn’t I see this coming?” These thoughts weigh heavily, like a burden you can’t put down. And then there’s the anger and the injustice of it all—the “It’s not right; it’s not fair” thoughts that leave you reeling, searching for answers in a world that feels so out of balance.
Grief is…
sitting bedside, waking up and forgetting they’re gone, putting their things away, seeing their handwriting, hearing a song, making impossible choices, finding a special place for their food bowl, hating hospitals…
And grief is also…
ending a friendship, moving away, signing divorce papers, not invited, regretting your chosen career or life path, thinking you knew someone, outgrowing your own beliefs, watching your body change over time, realizing you’re childhood wasn’t what you thought it was.
Sometimes grief can look like…
+ Losing your cool more than you used to. It’s not that you’re angry—everything just feels like too much. Or maybe you really are angry: at them, at God, at the unfairness of it all.
+ Putting on a brave face while breaking down in private. Crying in the shower or behind closed doors because it feels safer there.
+ Distracting yourself by staying busy or focusing on others. Anything to keep your mind from wandering to the pain.
+ Avoiding places, people, or things that remind you of them. It feels easier to stay away than face the memories.
+ Feeling like your emotions are “too much.” Worrying that if you let it all out, you might not be able to stop. Or maybe you’ve been burying it all, trying to keep it together, afraid of what might surface if you don’t.
+ Quiet moments feeling heavier. The evenings, the alone time—that’s when it all seems to hit the hardest.
+ Dreading holidays, birthdays, or anniversaries. These days used to be joyful, but now they feel like a reminder of what’s missing. And even when joy does sneak in, there’s often guilt—like celebrating means you’ve forgotten or moved on.
+ Thinking about all the “what ifs.” Wondering if you could have done or said something differently.
There’s no right way to grieve, no stages to master.
Your grief is uniquely yours.
THE PROCESS
The goal here isn’t to simply “move on” or “get over it”—it’s finding a way to live alongside your grief while honouring the love and meaning it represents.
Grief is deeply personal, and I will always meet you where you are without expectation or judgment. You’ll have space to talk about what happened, the details of your relationship, and even the things you wished had been different. I’ll help validate and reassure you that what you’re experiencing is a natural part of the grieving process.
We’ll also take time to explore what grief is and how it works, normalizing the ups and downs that come with it. Understanding that grief isn’t linear can help you feel less alone in your experience. If there are unresolved issues or painful memories associated with your relationship, we’ll process those together, allowing you to work through lingering emotions with compassion and care.
When the time feels right, we can gently explore the gifts and lessons this loss may have brought into your life. This isn’t about minimizing your pain—rather it’s about finding meaning in the connection you shared. Sometimes creative expression can also be part of the process—using art, writing, or other mediums to honour your loved one and make way for healing in a way that feels authentic to you.
THERAPY FOR GRIEF & LOSS CAN HELP YOU…
+ Learn to carry your loss in a way that feels lighter over time
+ Cherish memories with more comfort than pain
+ Recognize your resilience and ability to heal
+ Reach out for support when you need it, knowing you’re not alone
+ Find peace in honoring your loved one without feeling pressure to “move on”
+ Feel joy again without the weight of guilt
+ Discover a new sense of self and purpose after your loss
+ Transform grief into a source of growth and healing
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Can grief therapy help with losses other than death, like divorce or losing a job?
Yes. Grief isn’t limited to the loss of a loved one—it can come from any significant change or loss in your life. Whether you’re grieving a relationship, a career, or even a sense of identity, therapy can help you process these feelings and rebuild a sense of stability and purpose.
Is it normal to feel grief years after a loss?
Yes, you’re not alone in feeling this way. Grief doesn’t come with an expiration date—it often evolves over time. You might still feel waves of sadness, especially around anniversaries or significant moments. I’m here to help you navigate these feelings and create space for both grief and joy in your life.
How is grief therapy different than talking to friends or family?
While loved ones can offer comfort, they might not always know how to support you in the way you need. As a therapist, I can provide professional guidance with a deep understanding of grief and a space where you can express everything. I can help you work through your feelings without fear of judgment or needing to protect anyone else’s feelings.